Psychotherapy for millennial women who were raised by emotionally immature (EI) parents
Reclaim your authenticity through Dialectical Behavior Therapy & Prolonged Exposure (DBT-PE)
I use a unique blend of therapeutic modalities to help you heal from childhood wounds, address relational traumas, and overcome anxiety.
It's time to break free from the grip of internalized shame, guilt, and fear.
You want to experience more joy, confidence, and express yourself freely, but anxiety & negative beliefs seem to keep you stuck & make you unhappy.
Here are 5 signs you may be in this place...You have unfulfilled emotional and psychological needs from a childhood with emotionally immature parents and traumatic invalidation.
This leads to experiencing anxiety, self doubt, depression and struggling with people-pleasing and boundaries in adulthood.
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You may reflexively believe you’re an unacceptable person whose feelings, thoughts, opinions & perspectives are wrong.
You were repeatedly invalidated as a child, and now as an adult, you tend to invalidate yourself in ways that are similar to how you were invalidated as a child.
02You may believe yourself to be stupid, lazy, or selfish if you’re not perfect. You may even dislike yourself.
You’ve formed negative beliefs about yourself from traumatic invalidation in childhood. You feel isolated & that you don’t belong. You didn’t feel accepted by your parents, and this painful experience negatively impacts your self esteem & self confidence.
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You have unrealistic standards & struggle with perfectionism.
You might work very hard to be perfect & never make mistakes in order to avoid criticism. You might be very hard on yourself if you don’t get straight A’s, get a nearly perfect performance review at work, if you run late, etc.
04You believe that you cannot be trusted or make wise choices.
Maybe you don’t trust your instincts or perceptions, and rely on others to make decisions for you or act so highly capable that you don’t get the help you need. This stems from EI parents who control, criticize, or ultimately communicate to their child that the child’s perspectives, ideas, or ways of doing things are wrong. You may believe that you are incompetent.
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Maybe you've already tried various strategies & even already participated in therapy to tackle your anxiety & childhood wounds once & for all.
...but still find yourself masking your true self, living in fear & anxiety, and struggling with long-held negative beliefs about yourself.Maybe you've tried self-help through books, podcasts, social media & more, but find it difficult to put what you've learned into practice. You may feel overwhelmed by new information, forget what you've previously learned, and notice no meaningful changes despite your efforts. You need one-on-one strategic guidance from an expert.
Maybe you've tried traditional talk therapy, but found that it isn’t helping you create real change. Without a clear structure, strategy, or treatment plan with specific interventions, it often feels like 'chit chat' each week. Just talking about your problems as they come isn’t working.
Maybe you've tried well-respected trauma therapies like EMDR or IFS, but realize you need a therapy with a clear rationale with concrete solutions & interventions, as well as a therapy that focuses less on processing & encourages action steps toward changing.
Maybe you've tried energetic readings, but realize your spiritual curiosity would be better served by working with a therapist who incorporates spirituality, astrology, and energetics throughout your treatment.
The truth is, there are strengths & limitations of evidence-based psychotherapy and energetic, spiritual healing modalities; this is why it’s important to use both to offset each other’s strengths & weaknesses.
You need a therapist who uses a holistic & dialectical approach by bridging structure, strategy & science with energetics, spirituality & holistic methods to help you heal your childhood wounds, change your core beliefs, and move past your fears in order to step into your truest, unaltered form.
Individual psychotherapy where the highly respected & strategic practice of Dialectical Behavior Therapy-Prolonged Exposure can be bridged with spirituality & energetics
for women who were raised by emotionally immature mothers to overcome anxiety & reclaim their authenticity.Using a DBT foundational approach, we will create a treatment plan together that targets specific behaviors to increase and decrease. We’ll analyze behavior patterns and identify specific behaviors to decrease that interfere with your quality of life and personal goals. I will train you to develop and practice DBT skills using Marsha Linehan’s DBT Skills Training Handouts & Worksheets. I will teach you the skills to use when problems are present in your life - skills to tolerate the problem and how you feel about it when you can’t change the problem nor how you feel about it, skills to change how you feel about the problem, and skills to effectively solve problems. We will balance acceptance and change in order to facilitate meaningful growth with compassion.
We will use DBT-PE (prolonged exposure bridged with DBT) interventions to target emotional, relational, & attachment trauma as well as traumatic invalidation from emotionally immature parents causing anxiety, self doubt, and people pleasing.
DBT-PE is proven to effectively treat PTSD and uniquely targets traumatic invalidation. We will utilize in vivo (real life) exposure, imaginary exposure and processing to reduce symptoms caused by trauma from emotionally immature family members.
We will target and change specific negative beliefs, decrease feelings of fear, shame and guilt driving behaviors keeping you feeling stuck and unhappy. I will help you to grieve traumatic invalidation and the harm it caused, so that you may go forward feeling emotionally present.
In conjunction with DBT, we may also weave attachment-based, mindfulness-based & traditional talk therapy into your treatment.
If interested & appropriate for your treatment - using natal astrology with shamanic astrology influence & an array of energetic practices, I will teach you about your birth chart to get a deeper understanding of past life gifts, current life wounds, and soul purpose as you progress forward. I will teach you how to utilize different spiritual practices and develop your own to feel a deeper connection to your intuition and purpose.
It's time to let go of anxiety & the patterns no longer serving you, and step into your Authentic Self.
Imagine if this were your reality...Have less anxiety, more confidence as you embody your authenticity & live a life that feels like it’s truly yours, with no shame or guilt about it.
Feel at peace & accept yourself. Feel connected to your feelings, your intuition, as well as your environment & the world around you. Feel less shame, guilt & fear, and more joy, trust, and wisdom.
01Develop a deeper understanding of your childhood & the ways your experiences have influenced you, your development, and your behaviors.
Your trauma is processed, wounds from childhood emotional neglect & mistreatment from your EI parent(s) are healed, and you finally feel like a fully integrated, healed & whole person.
02Feel confident in interpersonal situations, ask for what you want, and recover from perceived invalidation.
Be able to say ‘no’ to a request without feeling guilty for it. Have healthy relationships & be able to set limits. No longer feel the pull to please others, even your demanding family members.
03Increased connection to your intuition & self trust.
No matter what happens, you remain in touch with your inner voice & hear the messages your intuition is trying to send you. This brings a new level of confidence & sense of peace.
04Have the skills to tolerate discomfort as well as process & regulate unwanted emotions, rather than avoiding emotions or discomfort.
When you do experience discomfort, doubt, or fear, you’re okay with that because you have the tools to navigate your humanness surfing the highs & lows of life without feeling like it’s a catastrophe.
05Become aware of your personal values & get in touch with your individuality.
Realize what behaviors of yours’ weren’t actually consistent with your personal values & actually being driven by your Role Self, and take action steps toward things important to your Authentic Self instead.
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A glimpse at the personalized pathway...
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We’ll assess the problem you’re coming to therapy to address, troubleshoot to be sure we’ve identified the problems that need to be targeted, and create your treatment plan.
You’ll complete a few mental health screenings & we’ll discuss them together, analyzing your symptoms.
You'll develop a deeper understanding of your experiences & symptoms, how they are linked to your childhood & I will provide lots of psychoeducation.
At this time, we can also look at your birth chart & utilize key information from that to gain a deeper understanding of your soul’s blueprint.
You leave the assessment phase with solid understanding of what needs to be worked on specifically, your wounds and soul’s purpose.
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I will teach you several DBT skills to address higher level problems and surface level symptoms. You’ll learn the basic skills needed depending on your treatment plan, and build confidence applying skills to your day-to-day life.
We will troubleshoot together as needed, figuring out what works for you, what is helping vs what does not work for you.
At this time, using practical, evidence-based principles help you feel better in your body, with a greater sense of control over your anxiety, thoughts, and symptoms.
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We will begin identifying core beliefs fueling anxiety, insecurity, and low confidence. We will target those beliefs using variable-specific DBT interventions (such as cognitive modification, exposure). This is often where exposure protocol & DBT-PE are utilized to change your unhelpful beliefs, decrease unwanted emotions such as fear, shame & guilt, and increase pleasant emotions such as joy & peace.
All the while, we will be identifying your values & I will be teaching you how to use your own wise mind to make values consistent choices, not influenced as heavily by others.
We will utilize different exercises to help you better understand your Role Self vs. your Authentic Self, and begin ditching the Role Self so that you can fully step into your Authentic Self!
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As your beliefs change, values clarify, and your confidence grows, you begin applying interpersonal skills to better your relationships & boundaries. This can be a difficult stage interpersonally, as it’s a transition period for your environment. I will support you the whole way & we will be addressing that in therapy too.
This is where we begin really integrating spirituality into therapy, combining this with your DBT skills use to feel best connected to your intuition, able to trust yourself & feel connected to the universe, even when uncomfortable & experiencing growing pains.
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We address new problems as they may arise, as these are usually higher level problems that may feel like new territory.
This is also where we’ll begin focusing on taking values consistent, soul purpose action steps that feel the most authentically aligned to you. For some, this looks like a career change, starting new projects they’ve been putting off, going on that trip they’ve always wanted to, joining that group or applying to that course.
What makes therapy with Allie Jayne different?
You’re not here for traditional talk therapy, where you go into session and feel like you “chit chatted” throughout, saw your therapist smiling and nodding, then heard “Ok great! I’ll see you next week!”
You’re ready to work with an active therapist who is truly passionate about helping you grow while also bringing warmth and compassion to help you learn to feel the peace that comes from full self-acceptance, while working to change.
You know it’s time to work with a therapist who specializes in a more strategic approach, because processing alone isn’t working. My training from key figures in DBT gives me unique knowledge and expertise in how to target anxiety stemming from developmental, psychological and emotional needs in childhood being unmet by EI parents. I had the privilege to be trained to deliver DBT directly by the doctors who worked directly with Marsha Linehan to create DBT, DBT-PE, and the DBT adherence scale.
You don’t just want a strategic therapist, but one who values treating the whole person - body, mind and spirit.You’re spiritually curious and desiring a therapist who understands this, is trained in spiritual practices, and will bridge this into treatment.
A part of you gets excited when you hear someone talking about their interest in spirituality, astrology, universe things! My experience has taught me that adding spirituality into practical, strategic therapy is the secret to clients doing their best inner work.
Without spirituality, it tends to always feel like there’s something missing. You can get your anxiety down, stop people pleasing, and yet, something is missing. This is something I know deep in my soul and nothing can replace spiritual hunger, which is why I have decided to bring my training in shamanic principles, astrology, birth chart reading, meditation and all things esoteric to your treatment. And, I do it in a grounded, ethically sourced manner.
Meet the therapistMy name is Allie Jayne!
MS, Licensed Mental Health Counselor & National Certified Counselor
Before starting my private practice in 2022, I was the therapy team lead and primary DBT therapist at PHP and IOP programs in Bellevue, WA, where I worked with and was trained by Dr. Kathryn Korslund to effectively deliver Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to girls, women, and non-binary individuals experiencing depression, anxiety and stress disorders. I worked with hundreds of teens, adults and families, and taught countless DBT skills groups (my favorite).
In May of 2024, I completed Dr. Melanie Harned’s Intensive Training in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Prolonged Exposure Protocol for PTSD. Before I was a DBT therapist, I was a school-based therapist in FL where I was trained in Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy (TF-CBT) and play therapy. I also interned at the Delores Barr Weaver Policy Center in Jacksonville, FL, which specializes in helping girls and women, and survivors of human trafficking.
I received my Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a specialization in Marriage & Family Counseling from Jacksonville University. I received my Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Sociology from Flagler College.
Our work together will include...
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DBT skills training throughout using Marsha Linehan’s “DBT Skills Training Handouts & Worksheets (2nd ed.)”. We will utilize handouts & worksheets for you to complete homework between sessions with practical, concrete guidance and training. Additionally, when you purchase the DBT workbook, you have access to digital copies of the material.
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If / when we do DBT-PE to target trauma, weekly psychotherapy session times may extend to 60-90 min. I will provide you with the DBT-PE handouts & worksheets developed by Dr. Harned to utilize throughout treatment (with my facilitation & support).
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You will have access to a client portal through Simple Practice, the practice management software I utilize, where payments, meeting info, practice forms & disclosures, and virtual meeting links will be held.
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Monthly Superbills are provided for you to submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement for therapy services.
We're a good fit if...
✔ You struggle with anxiety, boundaries, and people pleasing, and grew up with emotionally immature parents.
You had/have a driven or emotional mom who may have been highly critical of you, expressed anger at you often, and rarely seemed to feel satisfied with you and/or your performance, whether at school, home, or life in general. You have/had a passive or rejecting dad who may have avoided conflict, failed to intervene if/when your mom was mean to you, and/or seemed too busy with work to provide you with the attention you may have needed.
✔ You tend to internalize your problems - you’re likely to try to change yourself in order to make things in your life better
You try to avoid making demands of or relying on your environment to cope. You are highly accountable and may disapprove of yourself, hesitating to express disapproval of someone else. You may be a perfectionist, mask your emotions, and struggle with saying ‘no’. You are introspective, self reflective, and self aware, which leads you to research ways to address your symptoms, often showing interest in self-help.
✔ You generally have stable relationships and love the people in your life.
Conflict may arise after you’ve put off how you really feel for a long time, and your people may be surprised to learn how much you’ve really been struggling. You generally feel content and happy with the people in your life. You may have a long-term partner, friends, and generally get along well with others. Others may describe you as kind and compassionate. You care about not harming others and always consider others’ feelings.
✔ You work very hard & take pride in your work.
You may overwork yourself, struggle to relax, and work very hard to ensure those around you are happy with your contributions.
✔ Authenticity and honesty are important to you.
You no longer wish to be driven by fear, shame or guilt. You want to find your authentic expression, and find who you would become without the self-limiting beliefs. You want to find a way to feel more authentic and confident while continuing to show respect for others. You feel like you’re apart of something bigger and want to know your role in that. Some of your core values may be compassion, freedom, transformation, commitment, pleasure. You may prioritize relationships before yourself.
✔ You’re excited to learn and grow, and make meaningful changes in your life to feel a greater sense of peace.
You’re willing to be uncomfortable if it means you are going to reclaim your authenticity and heal your wounds forreal this time. You’re willing to commit to completing assigned therapy homework each week, even if it sometimes requires daily skills practice.
Individual Psychotherapy Pricing
50 minute session fee: $17560 minute session fee (DBT-PE): $20090 minute session fee (DBT-PE): $250For teenagers, I require two intake appointments - one with the teen, one with the parent(s).
I accept all major credit cards & HSA. I do not accept insurance. I provide all clients with Superbills with the necessary information to submit to their insurance for possible reimbursement for therapy services.
What happens in my clients' worlds
after they participate in therapy:
Frequently Asked Questions
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I recommend calling the number on the back of your insurance card and asking about your out of network mental health benefits. Specifically, you might ask, “how much do you reimburse for therapy with an out of network provider?” you might get even more specific, saying “if I have an out of network therapist who charges $175 per session, how much would be reimbursed when I pay out of pocket and submit a superbill?”
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I see clients Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays, usually between 10am-6pm. Most of my clients have work schedules that fall during session times and utilize lunch breaks for sessions. Employers are usually very understanding if you tell them you have a weekly appointment, some people say they have a weekly medical appt, some just say they have therapy and employers do not mind granting an hour each week for this. Sometimes, clients utilize an hour of PTO each week for therapy.
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I have limited in-person appointments on Fridays located in Seattle, WA. I offer telehealth appointments on Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays.
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You will need to purchase Marsha Linehan’s “DBT Skills Training handouts and worksheets (2nd edition)”. It also is helpful to print materials I send you, so identifying ways to use a printer if you don’t own one may be helpful!
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No. A full fidelity DBT program that is in adherence to the evidence-based model created by Marsha Linehan consists of weekly group therapy, weekly individual therapy, 24/7 phone coaching, and therapists must be on a DBT consultation team where they meet weekly. If this is determined to be what is needed for your best treatment, then I will provide you resources for DBT programs to participate in.
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Yes, especially in the first 3-6 months of treatment. Biweekly meetings are only recommended if we determine this is best for you based on my assessment, your progress, and your preference. I do not work with clients on a biweekly basis in the first 3 months of treatment, as it is not likely to be effective.
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This varies depending on many factors, and would be best discussed directly with me. Some clients graduate therapy in 3-6months, others 1-2 years, and many prefer participating in ongoing therapy for maintenance and continuing to target new problems that arise when we grow and ‘upgrade’ our problems in the process, which can look like working together for 2+ years.
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DBT is a form of CBT, I like to think of them as cousins. A key difference is that DBT balances acceptance & change in treatment, whereas CBT focuses mostly on change (such as changing your thoughts & behaviors). When Marsha was inventing DBT, she was working to create a treatment for individuals with a history of suicidal behavior, self harming behaviors, and other more 'high risk' behaviors. What she discovered was that therapy approaches that leaned heavily into acceptance (like person centered, humanistic) were not helping clients. She then moved into CBT & leaned heavier into pushing for change, and that wasn't helping either. She discovered the dialectical philosophy that finding synthesis between opposites not only was a fitting metaphor for balancing acceptance with change to help clients build their Life Worth Living, but for all elements of treatment. DBT emphasizes the importance of finding synthesis between opposites, because this is how we grow as people & where positive mental health lives - somewhere in the middle of extremes. Furthermore, DBT is a language based treatment designed to help you stay consistent & behaviorally specific, knowing independently what skills to employ when. DBT also provides many specific skills to help you replace old, ineffective behaviors with new, effective ones that will keep you on track toward your goals.
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DBT skills have 4 modules: mindfulness, emotion regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, and distress tolerance.
Specific skills from specific modules are applicable in a variety of ways, depending on the problem at hand & what you need to do about it, whether that's solve the problem, change how you feel about the problem, or tolerate the problem AND how you feel about it.
It's so fun - once you know the skills, it's like you establish a roadmap for exactly how you want to approach different problems life throws at you!
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DBT & DBT-PE are the foundations in which we are building off of in our work together, informing our supporting steps toward your goals, but it is not the sole focus or technique I utilize. I am trained in mindfulness-based counseling, attachment-based therapy, CBT, emotion focused therapy, and traditional talk therapy. I weave all of these different styles into your treatment to best suit your needs. We won't always need to be structured in our work together - my style is very balanced in this way!
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Absolutely. So much of our work together will include psychoeducation, processing, exploring your experiences & struggles, and finding links between your present-day symptoms, your past & your family of origin. You can be brand new to tackling this; a huge part of your time in therapy will be spent simply increasing your insight, awareness, and deepening your understanding of yourself & your experiences.
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This is so common in the flow of therapy, especially when we're really working on targeting trauma. Day-to-day problems arise, and I typically start sessions off inquiring with you about what's on your mind & if there's any pressing matter you'd like to make sure we address. For example, if a client is in the midst of exposure protocol with me, they might come in stating 'I need help with this thing that happened / has been on my mind', and we'll prioritize that instead of continuing exposures that day. I'll be sure to tie everything together by the end of session so you still feel on track while we're focusing elsewhere!
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The short answer: Yes! The long answer: I am more than willing to do DBT-PE informed therapy in the traditional 50 min. session model. If we come to find that that is not working for you & sessions are rushed, we can discuss options in terms of session length & cost! I am very flexible with this.
Are you ready to finally ditch the anxiety & people pleasing stemming from your childhood wounds in order to rediscover your
Authentic Self?
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